Life's Purpose

For as long as I can remember I have had a sense that there is a purpose for my being alive at this time. Over the years I have followed my path and it has taken me to the mountain vistas and way down into the valleys. I have been seeking the entire time.

From the outside, looking at my life, it appears that I have only been learning lessons, one after the other. Often I have been challenged with the same lesson, which I guess means I am either dense or it has been important for me to really understand it.

Now that some wisdom has been attained, I have been contemplating about what a life purpose is and how to attain it. This has brought me to the realization that there is a battle going on between my mind and my heart. My beliefs and my knowing are at odds.

My mind looks at the outer world and into the future. It has the idea that there is a goal “out there” and my reaching it depends on what I “do”. My mind believes once the goal is reached, I have arrived. There is nothing after that, except perhaps another goal.

My “knowing” heart lives in the present. When it is not fighting with my mind, I strongly feel that my purpose is simply “being” right in the moment. Sometimes it is the most natural thing in the world and other times, when my mind tries to pull me back, it can feel quite uncomfortable.

How do I stay in the moment? How do I live out my purpose with this way of being? Part of the way is imagining that it is already done. The human mind can be a wondrous thing. It doesn’t question what is real or what is imagined. It only functions on data input. By bypassing my fearful mind and imagining my life this way, it becomes the data that is dealt with.

What do I need to do my soul’s work? What will I need to implement that intention? It seems that the answer is to prepare as if my heart’s desire is already there. It is like sending love and gratitude from my heart, thanking Spirit for having accomplished the aim.

All the while I gather my tools. I imagine whatever I need in my life, see myself using them and see myself functioning as if my desire has already arrived. I must put my awareness beyond getting the intent into having it. I must function as if it is done. All I have to do is be there. I must taste it, feel it, see it in my mind’s eye and it will catch up to me.

How is this done moment by moment? I must put myself into the mental groove of gratitude for the desire accomplished. When I stray from that perspective, I must pull myself back into it. Soon I am functioning at a higher level of awareness and creativity, which accomplishes any undertaking I seek.

Sometimes it doesn’t work right away. That is when the little voice of doubt tries to jump in and take control. That is my lower mind. Living the new way, though, is a facet of free will. I must choose the higher vibration of love in every moment, rather than the lower vibration of fear in all its faces. By staying in the higher mind, in a loving vibration and in an attitude of gratefullness I am living my life’s purpose.

Every moment of my life is what I am doing for the planet. Sometimes I find myself working toward something specific and then I remember I am operating at the lower vibration and I change directions.

So when I ask myself, “When am I going to find out what I’m here for?”, here is the answer: I am here for now…not for something coming up. I need to examine what I don’t like in my life or what is happening that I would leave behind or that I don’t understand. Listening with my heart's pure intention through truthful introspection helps me stay in the now I am creating.

The picture is clear. I must take the situation of today and mold it into something that’s beautiful for me now. In difficult circumstances I must anchor and celebrate all that is around me. Those are the times that I must claim the compassion of Spirit and let it fill me.

Then I need to keep going…even in doubt. Instead of striving to satisfy my mind, I must strive for understanding the circle of energy that makes up my new “now” reality. From this perspective life is not linear. There is no future or past, there is only now.

This awareness is a choice I can make in every moment. As I accept this way of being as my Spiritual practice it gets easier and more satisfying. It reinforces the sense I have always had about having a purpose. That purpose is now.

LIFE PATHS

I was born into music. Life offers us many paths, and for me, music has been a constant presence, a source of pain and joy, and a beacon for my inner life. It has meant various things to me at different times. At first it was so much a part of my world, I didn’t even question and couldn’t tell where I began and it ended. As I was growing up, there was a confusing swirl with my mother and music. I wonder now if the opportunities she provided to develop my talents were really about her unlived dreams.



My mother was a natural, talented musician who played organ at church for over 30 years before her untimely death. A guilt-ridden sense of doing penance for some deep-seated sadness permeated her music. She dutifully played without missing one Sunday service in all those years. She also taught piano lessons to any child in our small mid-west town who expressed an interest. When I wasn’t climbing a tree to listen to the music of the rustling leaves in the wind, I used to hide under a table in the hall and listen to her teaching.

I started playing piano at age 4 and violin at 7. Every Saturday we would make a 60-mile drive to take lessons. The weekly excursion gave me the idea that music was my life ticket out of town. That vision grew as the years passed and gave me a forward-looking focus to my life. I never looked back.

I didn’t really know how I felt about music back then. I actually gave no thought about what it meant. Studying the basic instrumental techniques when I first started was tedious dull work, like all new students experience. With my natural enthusiasm to learn, having the discipline to practice was not a problem

Learning the basics was, for me, not exactly music. It was similar to learning to walk, read or learn a new language. In the early stages there was no magic, beauty, or transcendence. It was a necessary rite of passage, which would later give me the tools to step into music and let it take me away.

By the time I was fourteen I started giving piano lessons. This was really fun and I totally enjoyed my students’ progress and watching them becoming ignited with the love of playing music. I continued teaching piano for 15 years. The last year I taught, I had forty students, ten of them adults. At that time, I had become quite fascinated with the effect music had on the heart and soul. I decided to give a workshop for my adult students to share this with them.

They were all much older than me and, as I look back on it, it gives me a great appreciation and compassion for my courage as a very young and naïve adult. I talked passionately about music and the soul and laid myself totally open to my budding beliefs. When I asked the question, “Where does the music come from?” and all ten responded, “the piano”, I spent the rest of the time trying to impart “the real truth” of my convictions.

The following week all ten students dropped out. I was devastated! I knew deep down what I had said was incredibly valuable and true. Had they stayed with the process, I knew it would have taken them to a new level in their lives. I still remember the sadness their leaving provoked in me.

Unbelievably, two weeks later, all the students returned. Their playing had improved tremendously. What was more profound though, was how they had integrated parts of my convictions into their lives. This inner growth had deeply changed their lives and given them a voice. Their souls were singing through the piano with joy.

I got a degree in violin and piano performance and became a professional musician. I practiced many hours a day. The isolation heightened my shyness and tendency toward depression. I was not happy. I played in orchestras and freelanced with other musicians who were underpaid, unappreciated and unhappy. Being paid to play music was no longer play but work. Music was no longer uplifting and I felt as if I was losing my life force.

The familiar knowing of needing to let go that I had experienced many times in my life emerged. I had to let go of making my living with music. Once I made the leap, I gradually began to remember the joy of music, my passion for it and how it fed my soul. I yearned to play with people who loved music as much as I did and who played for the sheer joy of the experience. This path led me to chamber music. I was enchanted with all of the different combination of instrumentation and the wealth of compositions that had been written.

During this time a pathway opened up and music became my own. More importantly, music took me over and made me hers. I do not remember the exact moment when I became the music and began to express myself and my relationship to everything in the Universe through this seamless collaboration.

Rediscovering earlier awareness about the connection between music and my inner life coincided with opportunities to improvise with other musicians. This was a totally new way of relating to music, quite different from my classical training. This expansion from form to formlessness began to help me conceptualize the thread between music and psychology.

Psychology was a tremendously exciting path. I loved becoming more familiar with my inner life. I took classes in psychology, immersed myself in individual and group therapy, extensively read psychologists and their theories and eventually molded all of my deep-felt zeal into a new career. My process led me into a world that provoked many of the same experiences as music, but was bigger, deeper, wider and higher. I realized this was what I had been trying to convey to my piano students.

With psychology and music, my inner and outer worlds merged and became enlivened in ways I couldn’t have even fathomed. I found that my creativity was rising to the surface and finding expression I didn’t know I had. This combination fed and nurtured me beyond my wildest imagination.
Then, one day I woke up and felt like a chrysalis about to break out of a cocoon. No part of my life seemed to fit anymore. The path I had been on had taken a sharp turn and then divided. It seemed impossible to find my bearings. My soul was opening my awareness to something new.

My immediate inner response was to drop into an empty void so deep that psychology and music disappeared altogether. I plunged in the anguish of the dark night of the soul. Music and psychology had been so alive and active. This place was totally still and dark. There was no light to guide me. All I could do was sit in the quiet and wait. My soul was taking a new direction and I had to wait to see where I was going.

In the waiting, I became aware of the importance of silence. In music, the space in between was equally as important as the notes. In the inner psyche, the places that seem void of everything are just as vital as the ones filled with noisy experiences and frenzied feelings. I could not escape the depth of this emptiness. My soul had a lesson for me. All I could do was wait and let it emerge.

After what seemed like an eternity, I began to sense a new dimension emerging that was bigger than music and psychology together. The world that my soul began to show me was metaphysical. It began to connect all of me together. The inner work I had done on myself and all of the ways music had guided me throughout my life began to come into focus, with the backdrop of something greater. My soul had broken out of its old form and was showing me a deeper, spiritual dimension of my life. This outgrowth from music to psychology to my spiritual self seemed like the most natural thing in the world. All tension lifted and I experience inner peace for the first time.

Psychology is the study of the soul. The next step in looking at the personal and interpersonal aspects of my life is transpersonal. I believe the soul offers life lessons through giving situations that require both inward and outward tension. Working these lessons out, no matter how many mistakes or successes, moves my soul forward to the next level or lesson. At some point, a transpersonal vantage point comes into view. This gives my soul its connection with the spiritual aspects of life.

Music and psychology, as they have operated in my life, have given me many lessons and taken me down many paths of learning. By integrating them into the transpersonal, I am now much more aligned with my soul. I am now connected with myself, others and something much greater.

Recently I have dusted off my violin case, put on new strings and carefully place chosen notes into the world. It seems so delicate and fragile, yet strong and powerful at the same time. My inner life resonates with the ‘new’ through my every moment of my life. Everyday my soul gives me another piece of this metaphysical puzzle in ways I understand on a deep level, but have no words to express. I have entered the next phase of my life. I know psychology and music are my foundation and now I am learning to fly low and have a strong place to land.

I was born into music. Music has patiently accompanied my soul. I am blessed to have come into this life with the gifts and willingness to find myself over and over again. From where I am now, there is nothing to do but follow the ancients in their pursuit of the Music of the Spheres.