The calf weighed a thousand
pounds. “Bet it was all muscle”. That’s what the farmers in town mumbled the
next day. “Black Angus. Impossible to see at night.”
My
mother chose the pattern and the material. It was an 80-piece Vogue pattern for
a full-length camel hair coat. The picture on the front of the small flat
packet was classic—a thin-wasted brunette with teased hair, smiling proudly while
wearing the gorgeous coat.
In all of my 10 years in
4-H I am never encouraged to sew. I don’t think about it either, other than to occasionally
feel grateful it has never come up for a serious discussion. My sister has been
designing and sewing clothes for her dolls as long as I can remember. She wins championship
ribbons at the State Fair year after year for her amazing outfits. To me, sewing
pales in comparison to my entomology collection. My cases are filled with black
and green beetles, creepy spiders, butterflies and moths—wings beautifully
spread with silver pins stuck through crispy bodies. If you asked my sister
she’d tell you my “bugs” and my “carrots”, as she refers to my award-winning vegetables,
are nothing compared to her fine
sewing. As we’ve gotten older we don’t fight about it much.
When I walk by the material
sitting on the kitchen counter I stop and touch it because it looks like you
should bury your hands in its soft, plush, yummy golden heap. I think to
myself, “I wonder what this is? Is my
sister starting a massive new project?” I continue on through the kitchen. “I’m
glad sewing is not my thing,” I think. My mother, who is standing at the stove,
calls me back. “Do you like this material?” she inquires. As she pushes the
pattern toward me she asks, “Would you wear a coat like this?” I am confused about
why she is asking me.
Then she tells me about her
arrangement. She has hired Vivian Vinneberg
to work with me to sew the coat. I have
heard of Mrs. Vinneberg. She is supposed to be the best seamstress in the whole
state of Kansas. She has a son who goes to my High School but I don’t know him.
He is loner. I’ve overheard kids who ride his bus say he lives way out in the
sticks. Did my mother actually just tell me I would be spending my precious summer
with these people?
I
feel as if all the air has been sucked out of me. I am trying to comprehend the
meaning of what Mom told me. I feel completely pulverized! Isn’t a coat kind of
a big undertaking for a first sewing project? My mind plummets. I can’t believe
I am supposed to give up my entire summer to learn something I care nothing about.
Is Mom really going to make me spend it with some old lady out in the sticks! How
am I going to hang out with my friends?
I
hate my mother for setting up impossible situations like this! The projects she
picks for me always include some ulterior motive. She has some kind of fantasy
that I will “feel good about myself” when I have completed them. How can she
fail to grasp that it might not feel
good to get credit for something someone has done for you? The thought of this happening
again makes me miserable. Why does
Mom assume she knows what I need? I sulk off to my room to figure out how to
get out of this predicament.
Out in the sticks takes
on an entirely new meaning the first time Mom drives me out to the Vinneberg
farm. It takes a good 40 minutes until we turn off the asphalt highway onto a
gravel road that has tall grass and sunflowers growing down the hump in the middle.
After a while the gravel road turns into a rutted, one-car dirt path that bends
into an even iffier 800-foot dirt driveway. The buildings have suffered years
of neglect and many of them are falling down. The house is a typical wood-frame
2-story farmhouse that needs paint so badly it is impossible to tell if it was
ever been painted. I slump down in my seat and fold the foil wrapper from a
piece of Juicy Fruit gum as small as I can before I flick it out the window. I am
furious!
I see Vivian Vinneberg
standing, looking out through the screen door as we drive up and park in front
of the house on the parched grass. She is thin and has deep wrinkles in her
face that look like you could fall into them and never find your way out. Her
bronze skin makes me think of Native Americans. She stands tall and has a shy
smile. As we step onto the porch she holds the screen door open and looks down.
When she doesn’t make eye contact, Mom starts talking nervously in short
sentences. As Mom prattles on I get the sense Mrs. Vinneberg isn’t listening to
her either.
Anger is rising in my body,
tensing the muscles all the way up into my head. I don’t really want to find
out if Mrs. Vinneberg is nice. I don’t care if she wants to share what she loves
with me. My life, my entire summer, is being ruined by having to learn to sew. Mrs.
Vinneberg has agreed to be a part of my mother’s latest scheme to make me into what
she wants me to be. Mrs. Vinneberg, by participating in Mom’s egregious plan,
is now the enemy. Taking on my mom will do no good. The only power I have is to
be cruel to Mrs. Vinnegerg. I will pretend to be nice but will pour venom into every word, every look, and every
smile.
I don’t notice when my father
parks the new car at the end of the driveway one evening after work. I look out
my bedroom window and wonder who is visiting. I have no idea the car is ours. It is a 1967 Plymouth Barracuda
coupe---red with black vinyl interior. A large moon roof spans the entire back
of the car, giving way to thoughts of stargazing and drinking beer with
friends. In the past, my parents have always bought enormous Chryslers with big
fins—never anything this sporty and fun.
It takes me a while to
realize I will be driving the Barracuda every day when I go to Mrs. Venneberg’s—by
myself. When this hits me all my animosity disappears. I ask to take the car
for a spin. As I cruise down Main Street I feel “seen” as people turn their
heads wondering who is in the awesome car. I can barely feel the railroad
tracks’ bump as I drive out of town. I turn onto the straight road out by the grain
elevator and put the accelerator pedal flat to the floor. The car responds like
a dream. Before I know it I have reached the next little town and need to turn
around to go home.
I got my drivers license
when I turned 14. That was 3 years ago. It is hard to get “driving time” in my
family because either my sister wants to drive or Mom is going somewhere, always late—so she has to drive fast to
get there in time. Mom doesn’t encourage me to drive. I know she thinks I’m not
very good at it. I actually feel pretty confident. I have never driven by
myself, though, until this evening. I am looking forward to finally driving a
lot this summer!
Cutting out 80 pieces of
fabric takes days. Without talking about it, Mrs. Venneberg decides the best
way to deal with my shitty antagonistic attitude is simply to ignore me. She pins
the pattern pieces to the material as if she is helping a young child who is
eager to learn. Her perky attitude annoys me! I cut around the little pieces
with pinking shears, opening and shutting their jagged mouth forcefully, like a
shark closing in on dinner. All summer Mrs. Venneberg sets up the next step and
the next and I cut or sew or do whatever she tells me to do. My refusal to pay
attention or learn anything from what we are doing does not stop the coat from
taking shape. I have to admit it is a thing of beauty! I take no credit for it
and struggle with what I can say when people compliment me.
Each morning I arrive at the
Venneberg farm at 9. We work straight through the day and stop at 4. Then it is
just the Barracuda, the open road and me. I back the Barracuda up onto Mrs.
Vinneberg’s scraggly lawn to turn around, and then ease down the driveway. The
bumpy dirt road bumps and bounces me around in the car. I am extra careful to
maneuver the car so I don’t fall into a rut. When I reach the gravel road I
pick up my speed a little. I like hearing the thump, thump, thumping of the
sunflowers as they hit the front of the car. At the end of this road I come to
a complete stop. I pause and carefully look both ways for traffic before I turn
onto the two-lane asphalt highway leading home.
For a while the road, which
is situated on the top a gentle ridge, makes you believe you’re driving along
the top of the world. Looking out, it is astonishing how you can see pastures forever in all directions. The road emboldens
me toward speed. I have been with Mom on this road when she’s driven a hundred
miles an hour and she didn’t even realize it. I sit back in my seat and push down
steadily on the accelerator pedal until it starts to feel like I’m flying. I
see no other cars today. I decide I will slow down later when I reach the last
five miles before town. That is the hilly stretch. If a car is coming toward
you there, you can’t see it until it pops over the hill. I can feel the
enormous smile growing across my face. I am lost in thoughts of what independence
feels like. I decide I like being an adult and driving fast.
The next day Mrs. Venneberg
tells me the coat will be finished on Friday. We work with focused determination
all week. Then it is finally Friday. When it is 4 o’clock, our usual stopping
time, we still have more finishing touches left. We take a break so she can
make her husband and son and me some dinner. She fries some chicken and brings
out a dish of cole slaw she’s covered carefully with saran wrap. She asks me to
place little sweet pickles she put up last summer onto a relish plate. I pour
water into glasses with ice cubes while she goes out to the barn to find her
family. I feel nervous and totally out of place eating with her family. Mr.
Vinneberg tries to chitchat about the weather when he sits down. The silence
throughout the rest of the meal is interrupted only by the embarrassing sounds
of mouths mushing food. I am glad to be finished with dinner so I can clear the
plates and help her clean up the kitchen before we go back to sewing the coat.
When the coat is finished I
open the screen door and step out onto the porch and into the night. I can
barely see anything it is so DARK. I
drape my coat protectively over the passenger’s seat and make sure the plastic
Mrs. Vinneberg has slipped over it is entirely covering the coat. I edge slowly
down the driveway. I have never driven at night before. It is different than I
imagined. My vision is dramatically reduced and is limited to just what the
headlights illuminate. It doesn’t take long before I feel happy again! “I am done
with my coat! I don’t ever have to come back here!” I scream out my open
window.
I search the sky for the
moon. Maybe the cloud cover is hiding her? I can’t see any stars either. Once I
get away from the house it is completely black! I poke slowly down the uneven
road, watching carefully for anything the bright lights might highlight all the
way to the highway. Once I turn onto the asphalt I still hang back. I’m not as
comfortable cruising along at my usual daytime speed. Once I open all the
windows and crank up the radio, though, my confidence is restored and the Barracuda
begins to hum.
When I reach the section of
the road where the hills start I see headlights from a car in front of me. Headlights
do weird things when you’re driving in hills. They disappear and then reappear
so quickly it is nearly impossible to judge distance. I catch up to the car sooner
than I anticipated and have to put on my brakes because they are driving at a
snail’s pace. After following them at a safe distance, I can tell by the way
the car speeds up and slows down the driver has been drinking. They are weaving
all over the road. There are several places between here and town when you can
pass. I think I remember where they are although the road looks different in
the dark. I have never passed another car but I’ve watched Mom do it a billion
times. When she passes someone it looks and feels like sailing. I’m guessing it
must be easy.
We must be climbing up a hill
because we are going slower and slower. When speed picks up and I start
cruising again I know we have crested over the top and are on the way down. I am
pretty sure one of those passing places is coming up. When I reach the spot
where the road flattens out I put my foot down hard on the accelerator. The
powerful movement of the Barracuda clutches at my stomach and thrills me as I
pull out into the other lane. The car responds instantaneously and I easily pull
up even with the front of the other car. I look over and see we are neck and
neck. I look back at the road, headlights peering into the night. All of a
sudden I see a looming dark shadow up ahead ringed by the hazy glow from the
headlights. The shadow is imposing but I can’t make out what it is. I quickly
blink my eyes to make sure there really is something there. At the last moment
I see what it is. A black cow is standing sideways in my lane. In that split
second of recognition its enormous brown eyes lock with mine. By then there is
nowhere for me to go. I can’t pull over into the other lane because the car is
there.
I glance down at the
speedometer and see I am driving at 80 miles an hour. The impact is a deafening
sound of animal and steel. Instantly my windshield is completely covered with
shit and the night goes completely away. The cow seems to be riding on the
hood, pressed up against the windshield. The impact turns the car. It feels
like I am careening sideways.
At first time is suspended.
Then it moves in slow motion. I struggle to see, to make sense of what is
happening. I know I am moving fast by the pull of centrifugal force on my body.
Am I traveling through the air sideways? Should I take my hands off the steering
wheel? My senses are on high alert, my mind completely shut down. My entire
awareness is on movement. My body is intensely zeroed in to the unnatural
feeling of being airborne. I see a picture of myself in a coffin with people
filing by crying. Is this the last moment of my life?
At last I feel the tires rolling,
dragging on the Barracuda. The sensation of slowing down is almost
imperceptible at first. When the forward motion finally stops and car rocks
side to side a few times. I sit in silence, not breathing. I can’t tell if I am
still moving or not. I look around, trying to see anything through the
blackness. I am frightened by a sound that I realize is my breathing—uneven and
strained. My teeth are chattering and I can’t stop shaking. Adrenaline surges through me but I cannot move.
I hear a loud low moan and remember the cow. In my mind I see its eyes, begging
me to let it live. Now it agonizes with groans that scream out desperately into
the wounded night. As they grow more insistent I feel a sad heaviness and
complete helplessness I can only guess is grief. Fear keeps me where I am. I
cannot move to get out of the car. “Help me!” I scream into the punishing
night.
For what seems like a long
time I sit in the silent darkness. By now my breath is too shallow to detect. I
am numb. Lifeless. I have lost all sense of time. It feels as though all the
nerves in my body are wildly active while at the same time totally shut down. I
am saturated with panic. The pitch black is disorienting so I close my eyes. With
my eyes shut it feels like I’m still moving. The claustrophobic confinement of the dark
enclosed space is overwhelming. I become fixated on the feelings brought about
by thinking, “I almost just died!” I feel blood racing chaotically through my
body. My heart is beating uncontrollably. Even though it is a hot summer night,
I am freezing and cannot stop shaking. I don’t know what to do. How will anyone
find me? How will they know where I am? I don’t even know where I am.
Suddenly I think I hear a man’s
voice. My door opens slowly. With the light from his flashlight I recognize Mr.
McDowell. His brother rents the house across the street from my parents. I shut
my eyes when he shines the flashlight directly into my face to see if I am
okay. I burst into tears and it feels like an eruption of gratitude. He says
he’ll be right back and disappears. It isn’t until the deafening silence following
the gunshot when the groaning stops that I know the cow is dead.
Mr. McDowell comes back and
gently helps me out of the car. My legs are like rubber so he puts a steady arm
around my shoulder and helps me over to his pickup. Once I am in the passenger
seat he fastens his shotgun in the rear window of his truck. He hands me a
blanket from behind the bench seat and I pull it around me as we ride to town.
He tells me he was driving this way and when he got to the hills he saw the
lights from my car go haywire. The lights from the other car kept going. “I got
to you as quickly as I could. I knew something bad had happened.” He told me I had
gone sideways for a quarter of a mile starting in Riley County and ending up in
Pottawatomie County. “That is the only
piece of highway in the state of Kansas that has no signs or posts for that
quarter of a mile. “If you had hit even a small post your car would have rolled
and rolled. You would definitely be dead.
You are lucky!”
When we see the first
lights from town, reality hits and I start to wonder how my parents will respond
to my having a car accident. I’m pretty sure they won’t take away my driving
privileges. I am absolutely certain they
will be angry! Sure enough, when I tell them the story they don’t believe me. Mr.
McDowell assures them I am telling the truth. My father is furious about the
damage I’ve probably done to the new car. He keeps repeating, “I knew you were a
bad driver. I should never have let you
take the Barracuda.” As I listen to him rant, all I hear is how I’m not an
adequate person. Finally Mom, who has
been silent, suggests we drive out to where the accident happened. I am
relieved when Mr. McDowell says he wants to go.
We stand on top of the
world in the dark. Flashlights reveal significant damage to the front of the
car. While they are looking, I open the Barracuda’s back door and reach in for
my camel hair coat. I pull it out and slide the plastic up and over the shoulders.
The soft plush fabric makes me want to hug it. Hugging brings the comfort I so
desperately need. I slide into the backseat of my parents’ car and lean my head
on the window, embracing the coat. All the way back to town my father keeps
talking about the accident and the cow. Thinking about the cow causes sadness
so deep for me, I don’t think I will ever come back. I refuse to listen to him.
The only thing I can do is pull into myself as the warm coat enfolds and holds
me. Long after we get back home my father continues his tirade. I go to bed and
still hear him going on and on to my mom. She answers him with muffled grunts implying
colluding agreement.
I lie under the covers in
the dark shaking, immersed in anguish. I wonder if my parents are scared? Did it
occur to them I might have died? Do they care? I feel hopelessly alone. I wish
my sister were home from college. She would sit with me. She would hold me. This
experience is changing my world. I will never be the same. Tears run down my
cheeks in an unending stream as I cling to my camel hair coat.